Being A Gay Man, Do You Think You’re Merely “Settling? “
When many gay men first come out they are slightly tentative about approaching the men that they would like to get to know better. The problem is that whenever they are going out to have a great time they finish up meeting guys that they are not too interested in; often they will still hook up with them. Many homosexual guys feel it is preferable to settle for what they’re able to get, even when it is not precisely what they really prefer.
If this describes you, it must stop straight away!
Depending on how long you’ve known you are interested in guys, you may or may not have a “type” that you’re more drawn to than others. When you know what you desire, never just settle for someone that does not appeal to you. That is not fair to you nor is it fair to the guy that’s interested in you. However, when you’ve got little idea what type of man you wish to have in your life, you have to spend some time in a process of elimination. This doesn’t have to be cruel to other guys either. You need to simply get out in public where you’re guaranteed to meet other gay men, allowing you to scope out what’s available to you.
Find a picture that sums up your “ideal” guy. This may be a celebrity, a model, or perhaps a porno star. Give all of these photographs a ranking using a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of how desirable you believe each one is. Next, go to a private place, like your bedroom, and tape the best choice of the best man for you to a full length mirror. Now, utilizing the same considerations as you utilized to find your ‘perfect man’ give yourself a rating. Make a comparison of your reflection and also the picture which you selected.
This exercise works as a reality check to help you keep your needs and expectations in line with the type of person that you reasonably can hope to attract. Also you can make use of this technique to build up your rating by using some self-improvement tactics. For instance, you might start dealing with your looks and presentation in areas including dress and good posture. As your personal scores improve, so will your self-esteem and that’ll help provide the self-assurance to go out and locate your perfect man.
Doesn’t that sound far better than merely putting up with men who don’t really do anything for you? This way may not be as easy as as just heading out and going back with a few men, but this way can result in a far more long-lasting relationship. Furthermore, you ought to always be the best you could be, this is a superb method to help you to reach your full potential. Understand that everyone has to work on something, no-one is ideal without effort. You may not have what it requires to land a film star, but how many guys really have this potential unless they are already in that world? You will find who you want in your life turn out to be a good deal happier.